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Friday 27 February 2015

Men Marry For Strategic Reasons: Part 1



    They say no man wants to marry a liability and yet any woman that is looking for and probably waiting for a man that is financially stable enough to cater for her and her children is mostly termed 'materialistic'...next they come up with stuff like "it's a man's world." Really?

One thing is certain, men marry for strategic reasons, I think the female folks shouldn't be left out on the whole 'strategic marriage' thingy. if you want to settle down, don't be intimidated by advices like...it doesn't matter how much he is earning, or it doesn't matter where he is from, if he is short or tall, etc.  As the man is scoping you, checking if you can cook, keep the house clean, have children, etc....ladies, check if he is a giver/stingy, if he can be a good father, if he doesn't have a good relationship with his mom...check it. If he doesn't have a job or isn't earning much...check it. find out why. Is it because he is lazy and  has a laise affaire attitude towards his work or he is just passing through a phase...they are not the same thing.

  Like Myles Monroe stated in one of his messages, "divorce is a result of marriage." It is better a failed relationship than a failed marriage. Not everyone is destined for the Cinderella and beauty and the beast kind of love story. Most times...considering the level of moral decadence in the world today, people experience a lot of heartbreaks and disappointments before they finally find 'The One'. however, it is better you find yours at thirty and live happily ever after than jump in at twenty-four and live the rest of your life correcting that mistake.

   Don't start what you can't finish. he'll probably remain the same after marriage as when you both were dating. so you better be sure by the time you declare, "I do."

"I MUST MARRY WHO I LOVE." REALLY?




  
 
hahahahaha! I can't help laughing because this particular subject is quite hilarious-serious too. it is hilarious because when you here people say things like, "but I love him", especially when the man in question doesn't give a shit about her, you can't help but find it hilarious. it is also serious because a person in love is, and I quote, "mostly the most disillusioned person" when it comes to his/her object of affection. they don't get it! sometimes, even with the evidence right in their eyes, they'd rather be in denial.


   So here I was listening to this preacher and he says something that hit me. Something that has mouled my mindset about men and relationships a long time ago. He said, "don't marry who you love, love who you marry." if you are married and you agree with him, kindly type "preach on preacher!" (and hit like) This is because the bible actually said, "husbands, love your wife..." This is why marriage is strategic. I have heard stories of people that abandoned relationships of seven years to be with someone they met within a couple of months. I am not encouraging you to (purposely) go about breaking hearts and toying with people's emotions. I'm saying, be wise: at the beginning, in the middle...whenever you discover that what you are in isn't what you anticipate for in the future, abandon ship! DO IT WISELY!

   A number of times, during my chat with married women, they told me "everything is not about love" "sometimes love is not enough"...hehehe. Seriously? Even I find it hard to comprehend, but too bad, that is the hard truth. So you are madly in love with this tall, handsome, swagged-up dude, but he uses your body as a punching bag. my beloved, run for your life. So you are in love with this guy who has slept with a number of your girlfriends (while you were dating) and then he comes back all romantic and loving you up again...haven't you heard about HIV? So you're in love with a guy who thinks the only use you are to him is to cook, clean, scrub, mop, satisfy him in bed...next he'll say you're deperate. For this type, two things are involved, either they realize it too late that they messed up big time, or they marry someone else...well, less 'desperate'. Guys, you're in love with a lady who only remembers you when she has money-needs...and yet you prefer her to the one that is taking good care of you.

n/b: people in love are in very delicate situations, you've got to handle them with care. whether you're rendering advice or suggesting or giving them information, I strongly believe you should be subtle and most importantly...pray for them.