They had a drink together. Around 10:30pm, the duo headed home to John’s house. It’s the first time Tessy is visiting him. On getting home, Tessy decides to have a shower. Walking into the room, she notices John is undressed with only his underpants on. He is already in bed…probably fantasizing about the night.
Tessy on the other hand goes through her things to pick out
a nightie, lots of thoughts run through her mind: what’s gonna happen tonight? Is
he gonna be a gentle man as I anticipated? Or is he pretending to sleep,
probably waiting for me so he can pounce on me? “Oh! God, let me not regret
this evening”. She murmured to herself.
Done. She took her place in the other corner of the bed. She
begins to fiddle her phone as sleep is far-fetched from her eyes despite the alcoholic
wine she had throughout the evening. And then, there comes the hand, as she
feels John move closer to her, he whispers, “baby, aren’t you asleep yet?” “come
noooow”
“to do what?” wondered Tessy, still looking through her
phone. “come let me hold you” says John. “I am not feeling cold neither do I feel
like being held” thought Tessy. Sensing her resistance, “baby, I just want to
feel you” john says.
…”Hellooo! Feel me?”
And for the next two to three hours of the night, John keeps
pestering Tessy for sex.
The point of this article is for men to figure out when a
woman says no to sex and actually mean it. They need to stop assuming that the
lady is pretending or playing hard to get. The fact that she came to your house
or invited you over doesn’t mean it’s gonna be a sex party!!!!
When a woman wants sex:
i.
She may or may not plan for it. If she does, she’ll
dress for the occasion or pack some sexy lingerie (and protections if necessary)
to aid seduction.
ii.
She either comes on to you or won’t push you
away when you make advances towards her.
iii.
She plays (or at least is willing to play) her
role to make the whole process worthwhile.
iv. She usually knows what she is getting
herself
into and is ready to take responsibility for her actions or at least won’t
blame anyone for her actions.
Now I’m wondering, is that sex? And since
it wasn’t mutual, and though it may not be forceful (and probably can’t be
termed ‘rape’. Then what is it? One thing is certain, whatever is it, isn’t right!
It’s amazing how the ‘seemingly’ little
things we say or do affect the people we meet every day.
So, if by chance, you’ve made someone feel
any of these, you need to apologize. You need to find a way to make amends. You
may get away with it now, but remember, “Whatsoever thou soweth, thou shalt
reap”. You have a wife, sister or daughter don’t you?
N/B:
when a woman says “No”, there is 99% chance she actually means it!
When a woman says no
i.
For a lady who is all about sexy, she will not
plan for anything because of her sense of style, so don’t mistake her sexy
night wear to mean, “don’t mind my words, I really really wanna have sex with
you”
ii.
She doesn’t come on to you. She won’t say things
or take actions to seduce you or instigate sex.
iii.
Par eventual, you persuade (she gets tired of
your pestering) her into sex or forcefully have your way with her, she doesn’t give
her all. Instead, you get struggles, pushing away, abusive words, etc
Sometimes they just lie down like a log of
wood and just let the man do his thing.
iv.
Now this is the annoying, painful part of not
believing or accepting that a woman actually doesn’t want sex, the aftermath!
A lot of emotional trauma begins to flow, sometimes
it causes a psychological imbalance in the individuals.
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| filthiness, pain |
 |
| frustration/anger |
 |
| regret,disappointment,shock |
This people go through a lot:
·
Anger
·
Pain (emotional and physical as the case may be)
·
Anger
·
Distraught
·
Frustration
·
Fear
·
Disappointment
·
Filthiness
·
Disgust
·
Hatred, etc.
